Win 1-on-1 coaching on negotiation

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How many times a week do you negotiate? Chances are, it is more often than you think, but not nearly as often as you could be.

When we think of negotiation, a few common examples come to mind right away:  Securing a higher salary in a new job, closing an important business deal with a customer, or asking for a discount on something we are purchasing for our home. Yes, those opportunities for negotiation are important, but there are many more we could be embracing.

In our work we can negotiate with colleagues for who will pick up coffee in the morning, or who will need to deliver bad news to the boss. We will also need to lead discussions on roles and responsibilities, who will work on the exciting new project, and what happens if expectations are not met. Those conversations may not revolve around money or contracts – but are still valuable negotiations.

In our personal lives we may negotiate with family to determine who is hosting dinner on Sunday night. We will also need to have discussions with caretakers for our parents to ensure they are getting adequate support. Perhaps we will even be meeting with administrators or teachers to sort out a misunderstanding at our children’s school. These conversations may not feel like negotiations, but are actually crucial discussions for us to be having.

Whether you are seeking a pay raise, a resolution on who is going to clean the kitchen, or access to in-demand healthcare, negotiation is a life skill that helps you get more of what you want, creating even greater impact for your business, life and community.

What change will you create this week?

To help you build your negotiation skills, Empower Women is teaming up with the negotiation consulting firm advantageSPRING to bring you the opportunity to win a 1-on-1 coaching session. You will have an opportunity to speak with an expert to gain insight on strategy, polish your approach, and shore up your confidence – so that you can negotiate like a pro.

How to apply?

Submit a brief essay (500-1,000 words) on the topic Negotiate with Impact, responding to one of these three questions:

1)      Tell us about a time you either failed to negotiate (when you should have) or when you tried to negotiate and didn’t achieve the result you were looking for.

2)      Share your proudest achievement in work or life, and what you have learned from it.

3)      Let us know where you aspire to be, and what you want to achieve with your newfound negotiation skills. How will you use them to transform your life, and impact your community?

Rules of the contest:

All applicants are required to be a registered member of Empower Women.

Your essay…

  • Must focus on the topic mentioned above.
  • Must be your original work.
  • Can be no longer than 1,000 words, and no shorter than 500 words.
  • Can be in either Arabic, English, French or Spanish.
  • Must be written in first person (I or we).
  • Cannot be published elsewhere.
  • Must be non-fiction and follow the form of a blog, memoir or essay. This means that we want real stories about real life from you.

The essay will be published as a blog on Empower Women so by submitting your essay, you agree to have it published and accessible for viewing by hundreds of thousands of people from around the world.

The selection process

The applications will be evaluated as follows:

  • Empower Women Team Members will read every single essay to create a short list of essay finalists based on the criteria list above.
  • The Contest Committee will then review the short list and rate them on the basis of the following criteria:
    • Original voice
    • Unique style
    • Fresh point of view
    • Creativity
    • Descriptive language
    • "Realness" of your story. Write from your heart!
    • Interesting ideas
    • Valuable content and/or research incorporated into the essay
    • Clear presentment of the topic
    • Peer impact
    • Spelling/Grammar
    • Strong writing and analysis skills
  • On 10 July 2016, we will announce the winner(s) of the private online coaching session.

How to submit:

Please share your essay here (see orange Share Your Story button).

Please remember to complete all the fields.

Deadline: 30 June 2016 midnight EDT.


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  • Kipkoech Lewis
    Nice one i admire this and do concur with it 100%
  • Sameena Hasan Javed
    Negotiation skills are beyond doubt of great value, that help over ride any situation in a woman’s life, be it -at home, at work or mere socialising! I am a wife, a mother, a friend, a lawyer and academician by profession and above all the other varied positions in life- I am a Woman! I remember trying to negotiate a matter which involved a testamentary dispute between a brother and sister. The issue was that though the sister(who was my client) was willing to negotiate, the brother’s end were unwilling to part with the property and valuables as they felt that they had the means and end to fight out and above all prolong the matter in court. the dispute is still pending in court and the reason perhaps being convincing other influential persons in the life of the other party where ego over rules reason and money over powers wisdom and relenting is considered as a sign of weakness. I regret not being able to convince the other side in this matter. I recall an incident, wherein a family member was being harassed (with an intention to extort money) and sent back to her home without giving a chance to take her little girls and even clothes. At that time, I stood a rock and handled the sensitive matter due to my knowledge and skills in law coupled with my intention of ensuring that the home is not broken apart. I informed the police In-charge of the area before we proceeded to convince the in-laws of the girl. However, they did not relent and instead headed to the Police station to register a complaint against us. But the In-charge who was made aware of the matter understood their plan and pulled them for their lack of sensitivity. As they realised that their doors are closed from all angles, they relented, though it did take about three months to get the family and kids reunited. It was a proud moment as at that time even the elder male members of the family took a step backwards and posed their confidence in my ability to see the dispute resolved. I look back with happiness and feel proud to see the children reunited with the parents and are living together in harmony today. I feel that I need to iron out my negation skills so that I can help many more women and families to see reason and also these skills can help to handle situations involving students in college who think that they are grown ups but clearly have not learnt their lessons in life! Sameena Hasan J. Advocate and Academician
  • BATAMURIZA LEA
    Sound good to me, I have done
  • Medha Dubhashi
    I am a trainer at an apex Institute in India, conducting Management Development Programs for middle and senior level personnel in Cooperatives, NGOs , Government and International agencies. For me communicating , presentation skills are important; as well as negotiation skills.In class , most of the programs are structured and the program runs according to the day to day schedule. As far as sessions are concerned knowledge giving is important and mostly I do well. But when there are outstation programs, besides the classroom sessions, their are field sessions. In addition , it amounts to staying at a new place during the duration. That is when negotiating skills become important. I have to negotiate with the hotels the tariffs that should match our budgets. Moreover the trainees who come there make several demands and to keep them satisfied negotiating skills become again important I want to learn from this program the art and skill of negotiating, without losing one's balance. This is important even at home.I want to know how one can negotiate to be able to achieve one's goals. What are the techniques of being successful negotiator I hope I am counted in
  • Sheila Crook
    Terrific . Will share.
  • Tchiyiwe Chihana
    Brilliant.
  • Caroline Pamela Awino Owen
    Finally, the right forum! Winning support can be so strenuous without special skill.
  • Joy Eze
    Interesting!
  • Estelle YVEN
    Great !
  • Tonny Okello
    This is just what i needed. Thanks.
  • Evelyn Bisona Fonkem
    Great initiative
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