Is It Time Women Made Up Their Own Language To Determine Their Success?

Have you noticed that a lot of the language used to determine the success of women come from male counterparts? As a business mentor I have worked with women from a cross section of industries - property, finance, legal, fashion. In most cases, at least 7 cases out of 10, these women have used male language in describing 'what success should look like'. There can be problems in this, in terms of women maintaining their identity as women as they strive for their male equivalent of success. So, Is it time that we developed a new language? A language for women in leadership by where each women could describe what success meant to her, on her own terms? For example, be it working three days a week in a career and taking the rest of the week to raise a family. Would this make that woman any less of a successful woman? What do you think?

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  • Teresa Abila
    Women need to take a different path to success than has been traditionally defined for them by society. When empowered, women are independent in their decisions regarding work and family and can create a balance for themselves. Nevertheless,empowered women can still seek advices from their spouses but if the advises do not meet their level of satisfaction,they have a right to do what's best for them.The bottomline here is women can choose whatever careers suit them and succeed and by having a common language, women have everything to gain by working hard and having their own voice. A common language is like an identity that defines the real (wo)manness in her, it reveals her characteristics and what she can do to succeed.
  • Ana Espinosa

    I agree with all of you, saying success must be in a certain way define by each one and not just such as part of a women/men debate, what I do think is that language is indeed an amazing tool for empowerment and leadership, and that in fact I don't think we must start a new language for women because that indeed just set the groups apart instead of focusing in how both could achieve it together, what I believe is that we must start using that language as a women tool to empower women where our society start seeing how both men and women are using the terms in the same amounts, we need to educate the society in see this terms as specific or general as an individual could be and not in terms of the gender. 

  • Catherine Nyoike

    Thank you Charlene for bringing this topic up.I agree with the Swati and Michel.

  • Charlene Laidley

    Michel Choto - I am so with you here! 

    I particularly loved your statement about us women defining what WEE looks like for us and how we will measure when we achieve it. This really got me thinking...

    As women we do need to 'lead the change'. I firmly believe as women we need a common language to describe what success looks like to us that is not defined by men.

    Thank you for contributing. 

  • Charlene Laidley

    Swati Vempati and Kanchan Amatya - Thank you for sharing. I am totally in agreement with you, that both men and women should define what success looks like to them on their own terms. 


  • Kanchan Amatya

    I agree with Swati on this. Every person has to decide their own success parameters. 

  • Michel Choto

    I think its important to define for ourselves what WEE means to us. What are the key indicators? How will we know when we achieve WEE?

    I agree that we need to have a common language that we speak coupled with goals we aim to achieve that are not defined by men. As women we need to lead the change.

  • Swati Vempati

    I think such societal parameters or expectations are applicable to both men and women. Women face questions of being 'woman-enough' to take care of family while pursuing careers (mind you, many times success in work is not a parameter) while men face questions of being 'man-enough' to be the breadwinner, to earn higher and higher and get promoted multiple times. 

    Every person has to decide their own success parameters, this competition business can only lead to more stress and a sense of being inadequate.

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